To quote Woody Allen, 80% of success is just showing up. I know, can you believe I’m quoting Woody Allen on a Christian blog? What am I? Crazy? (Yeah, pretty much). But just think about it for a moment-80% of success is just showing up.
I’m thinking about this quote a lot today. My daughter just graduated today. She graduated with twenty-five other homeschoolers. Each of them had to give a speech or showcase some talent they had like: singing, playing the piano, dancing, playing the guitar, or tumbling. My daughter opted for the speech giving route. She could have tried piano or dancing, but seeing how she doesn’t do those things it would pretty much embarrass her and cause my husband to disown me, so speech it was! She gave her speech and did a pretty good job of it. But I’m here to talk about me, so why the Woody Allen quote?
I look back at our homeschool years and think...we didn’t do anything earth shattering. We didn’t move mountains. I was never elected mother of the year for anything. My daughter is not perfect. I’m not perfect. Was I successful as a mother and a teacher to my kid? Well if 80% of success was just showing up, maybe I was.
I was there, when I realized she was having difficulty learning how to read. I was there when her brother shoved her on the bed and she split open the back of her head and needed stitches. (I was there to tell her it wasn’t that bad and to throw her in the tub and discover how wrong I was). I was there when she refused to learn how to ride her bike, until her brother showed her up and started riding before her. I was there when I took her to swim lessons and she ran screaming to the corner by the pool to get away from the mean swim teacher. I was there every stinkin day when she refused to learn math, crying at every problem. I was there when we read Charlotte’s Web together and cried together when Charlotte died in the end. (Hopefully, I didn’t spoil the ending for you). I was there when she refused to eat her peas, so I saved them for her, for the next day. I was there when she was learning to potty train and held it in for so long, she literally exploded with pee all over the carpet in our office. I was there when she ate too much popcorn on Christmas Eve and threw up during the Christmas Eve service. (I know I was there because I tried to catch it before it went all over the floor-those things we don’t forget). I was there for her first step, her first word, her first new food, her first crush, her first disappointment. Everything, I was always there. Day in and day out, I was there.
We never did anything perfect. But I was always there. They, whoever they are, are saying there’s no such thing as quality time anymore. It’s quantity. Lot’s of time with your kids. I like that, because I certainly can’t say we had many stellar days. If I was being rated for the amount of quality activities we did, I wouldn’t score very high. But quantity. Now that I can do. I was always there. Sometimes I wished I wasn’t there. Many days I didn’t want to be called “Mom” anymore. Sometimes I wished I didn’t know how bad my kid was at math. (You know, ignorance is bliss). But I was always there.
My kid still doesn’t do math well. Finding shoes in our home is like climbing Mt. Everest-it’s really, really hard to do. We don’t dance around here. Not because we’re against it, but because we’re really bad at it. My kid doesn’t play a musical instrument. She can’t sing. None of us in the family can. But through all of her years I was there, all the time.
So I comfort myself in the Woody Allen quote-80% of success, is just showing up. I was there almost 95% of the time. You have to leave room for those times my kid spent with the grandparents. I showed up. I was always there. So thank you Mr. Allen. You made my day because if 80% of success is just showing up, I definitely scored high in that department.